Happy Valentines' Day

Today is the time to get romantic - Here are some quotes for the occasion (Especially if you are writing to impress The One):


1) Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
-Franklin P Jones

2) The world is wonderful and beautiful and good beyond one's wildest imagination. Never, never, never could one conceive what love is, beforehand, never. Life can be great --quite god-like. It can be so. God be thanked I have proved it.
-D H Lawrence

3) Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration.
-D H Lawrence

4) Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.
-Wayne Dyer

5) You can't blame gravity for falling in love.
-Albert Einstein

6) Love doesn't sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread: remade all the time, made new.
-Og Mandino

7) If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?
-Stephen Levine

8) Go to the truth beyond the mind. Love is the bridge.
-Stephen Levine

9) It is difficult to know at what moment love begins; it is less difficult to know that it has begun.
-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

10) To be in love is merely to be in a perpetual state of anesthesia.
-H L Mencken

And my favourite love quote of all time:

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (NRSV, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

How To Find A Date

Remember that finding a date is the first step into getting hitched. For most people, dates do not come to them just like that. Thus how are you going to go about finding a date. What are the various channels to find a date?

There are many different ways for you to find a date. To increase the chance of success, you should use the method which you think is the most suitable for you, taking into consideration your personality and character.

1) Dating Agencies
2) Courses and Activities
3) Introduction by relatives and friends
4) Forums and Chatrooms
5) Parties and clubbing locations
6) Your Workplace and Work Area

If you are not able to engage in any one of the abovementioned activities, I believe there will be much lesser chance of you finding a date, well, unless perhaps you are the type of people who happened to be blessed with chance encounters.

And if you are a rather shy or timid person and is rather hesitant in attending any of the activities that can increase your chance of getting a date, I suggest that you find your close friend, or a group of friends, to accompany you to these activities. They can be your moral booster, your image guidance, as well as your personal advisor (to analyse the guy/girl) at the same time while they are there!

Have fun exploring the various opportunities, to see which is the one that works best for you. Also, different avenues might mean meeting the different types of people and thus, you might want to seriously consider which are the activities that you want to engage in so as to meet the right kind of guy/girl (you do not want to attend a reading club and meet this guy who is a bookworm and does nothing all day but reads, reads, reads and reads, while in fact you hate reading entirely?)

Meanwhile, enjoy the activities, and hopefully before long,

Congratulations!

Dating

Dating is the first step into a relationship. It is the tryout period whereby the two of you discover more about each other and see how compatible the two of you are, whether there are common interests, or common likings and similar tastes. Sometimes it might be love at first sight for you, however after some interaction, you found out that the two of you are of completely opposite poles! Then, you might have to decide whether to continue on with the relationship and develop it into something further, or maintain status quo as friends.

Thus as one draws nearer towards the marriageable age, dating gets more and more important. No doubt it is tiring, but the more people you meet, the higher the likelihood of you meeting The Right One, and what is more important is that as you meet more people of the opposite gender, you will realise what is it that you are looking for in a lover or your future spouse. Therefore, do treat each dates as an opportunity to discover more about yourself and your expectations, and as well as a chance for you to hone your interpersonal skills (just in case you need it to impress The Right One when he/she appears!)

Of course, talking over the phone to know more about the person is alright, there are quite a number of friends that I know, who developed their relationship through the internet and meet their other half only until after some time into the relationship. However, what will be best is to have a face-to-face meeting, as you will then be able to have a more accurate feeling of how suitable the two of you are. Words can be minced when chatting over the internet, as there is an opportunity for a delayed response. Words can be carefully selected, answers better crafted, whilst talking over the phone, as the talker has only to concentrate on his/her speech and not his/her body language and facial expression.

But no matter what you do, no matter how tiring you may make it out to be, find yourself a date! Enjoy the dating life (at least it shows that there are people wanting to meet you)!

If you already have a date as you are reading this,

Congratulations!

Fate

Quite a number of people I know have a rather passive view about fate. They believe that fate is something that occurs to them, just like that. Thus, with this notion in mind, they wait for fate to befall on them. Some get lucky while waiting and fate eventually arrives. However, there are some who have waited and waited, years whizzing past them, and till enough time has passed by before they realised that their belief of fate has played a trick on them. Some even ended up with the thinking that perhaps love is not meant to be for them.

What is fate actually? Is it a chance encounter in a lift? Or is it some coincidental meeting at a party? Or perhaps an accidental bumping into one another?

Thus, if you have realised, there must have been something that have happened, before fate can actually happen. Your Right One does not fall from the sky like that, just the same as that fate does not fall from the same sky too.

One thing about fate is that, it has to be created. Fate is you creating a bridge, to link yourself to the other one.

Therefore, for this chance encounter to happen in a lift, you must be in the lift at the time. For the coincidental meeting at a party, you must be at the party for the meeting to take place. Of course, you must be walking somewhere before you bump into other person accidentally (well, I won't suggest that you go about bumping into people every day).

Go out there and create the chance! Give yourself a chance to be loved! Well, even if you do not find The Right One right away, I'm sure you'll have fun meeting people, exchanging ideas, and enlarging your social circle, thus enriching your social life at the same time! Who knows, the people you meet, might be the 'bridge' that you are looking for, to link you with The Right One!

Get going right now! And perhaps, before long,

Congratulations!

The Most Important Question to Ask Yourself

If you have continued on reading so far, you are already heading in the right direction.

But first, let me ask you a question: "Why is it that you are still single?"

Is it due to a previous relationship that has gone sour, or that you are so preoccupied with your work that you do not have time to socialize and find Mr/Ms Right? Or is it because you think that fate has not arrive and the guys/ladies that you met are not the Right One for you?

I am sure the list can go on and on.

However, have you ever realise that many of these answers to my question below are actually not the stumbling block to you getting a love life. What actually is the obstruction to you making the move is your MINDSET, as again.

You may say that you are so tied down by your work, such that you really do not have the time to go out and socialize. But come to think of it, imagine yourself 20 to 30 years down the road, you may have become the manager of your department, however, that is all that you have - Your Job. Your Job, that was once you see as being so important in your life. But that is all. You may then see others, who may not hold as high a position in the company as you, but they are happily married, with kids and grandkids. Also, I'm sure that there are lots of people out there who are so success at juggling their work and family life, that they are able to get a high position, and have a family at the same time. YOU CAN BE ONE OF THEM TOO.

Why deprive yourself of a loved one, or even a family?

I am sure that with this change of mindset, or rather, attitude, you will be able to juggle your work such that you find (or squeeze, if you are really that busy) time to do some socializing.

And, most importantly, socializing is not as tedious or time consuming as you think. That is unless the wrong activity to socialize in (for example joining the inline skating for teens course when you are already 30 years old). [PS: Do not fret, Do the right stuff will be one of my topics in time to come.]

As for the other reasons as to why you are still single, I'm sure with the reasoning above, you are able to find similar reasoning so that these reasons become excuses and not reasons anymore!

Once you are able to talk yourself out of the reason, you are already one more step towards your goal!

Congratulations!

Can't Help Falling in Love

For some, finding the right one and falling in love seems to be something of "mission impossible". For others, staying in love, and eventually get married, seems to be

We have seen so many movies, beginning with "When Harry Met Sally", "Sleepless in Seattle" and the recent "The Lake House", all about the meeting of the lonely souls which eventually results in sparks flying and, "then they lived happily ever after". That's for movies, the unreal world. But how about in the real world. Does this kind of fairy tales exist?

Is it really that impossible for such fairy tales to happen to us? Or it is actually up to us to step out and assume the role of the writer and create the tales ourselves?

Valentine's Day is round the corner. Is it the time of the year again, whereby you watch in envy people around you blissfully spending the night with their loved ones, drowned in love, and you envision the day when the same will happen to you?

Have you looked for love the whole life and now is on the verge of giving up, as you think that it is actually not on the cards for you?

Actually, you are not alone! There are millions of people in the world out there, being in the same situation as you are, right now! Come to think of it, this means that it just take one, out of the so many millions, for you to meet, and fancy, and you might be on the way to ending your singlehood!

Now, this has become less difficult as you have thought it would be in the first place right?

That, is the first step - DO NOT GIVE UP HOPE!

Treat all your chance and new encounter as a positive step towards your goal (you know what it is right? I have mentioned it three paragraphs before anyway!)

It is the mindset!

Now, if you have read on and stayed with me thus far, it has already showed that you are already in the right direction, and has the right mindset to embark on the next few steps, for if it is otherwise, you would not have found this blog in the first place!

Congratulations!

Singlehood

Hi Readers,


Welcome to Instant-Romance!

This is the place specially created for the singles out there, as a platform to share tips and experience on how to find THE SPECIAL ONE!

Join me, and the millions of people out there, on this magical journey to finding the love of your life, and keep it!


Lovingly yours,
Annie